“Being” means getting clear on your inner landscape: your thoughts, emotions, talents and skills, and your purpose.
When being is clear, action becomes a natural consequence. Without it, doing turns into a rat race—busy, stressed, and often misaligned.
We act from identity. When you choose the kind of person you’re becoming, decisions simplify and habits line up. You need less external validation because your direction comes from inside, not from others’ expectations.
This is inner work most of us didn’t learn in school. So we begin now.
Who you become is built by today’s decisions—where you place attention, how you think, and the small behaviors you repeat.
List three meaningful outcomes you want to achieve. Make them specific to you.
Name the being behind each outcome. Who do you need to be to reach it? Write a few words on mindset, emotions, and habits (e.g., “curious and steady,” “asks for feedback,” “treats setbacks as data”).
Choose one simple action for today that expresses that being. Keep it tiny and repeatable—something you can finish in 10 minutes.
Why this works: when identity leads, action follows. You aren’t waiting to have results to feel aligned—you’re practicing alignment now, which makes consistent doing far easier.
Where have you chased “doing” or “having” without clarifying “being”?
What identity statement (one sentence) captures who you’re choosing to be this week?
Which single behavior will you repeat daily to embody it?
— Sandro Formica, PhD
Founder of Permanently Happy (questions at [email protected])
Keynote Speaker | Transforming Leaders & Organizations Through Positive Leadership & Personal Branding | Director, Chief Happiness Officer Certificate Program
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